嗨。第一篇文章在这里。在过去的几年里，我母亲慢慢地患上了痴呆症。在最近因严重感染住院治疗后，她终于回家了，但她的困惑加剧了，我现在不得不面对她无法自己管理的现实。我是她唯一活着的孩子，现在责任落在我身上，要为她的健康、幸福和日常生活安排一切。她一直是一个非常慷慨的女人，多年来给我和我的孩子们送了很多红包。她也总是慷慨地给美发师、服务员等小费，但我注意到，在过去几年里，这已经上升到一个程度，有人来为她完成一项基本任务，她就会得到不成比例的大额礼金。在新冠疫情期间，这并没有那么糟糕，因为只有少数几个访客是亲密的家人。但现在，由于我是全职工作，我不得不雇佣无数的护工，每天早晚都要照顾我。在她住院之前，她的钱包里挂着大量的现金，挂在她的脖子上。 After she came home I took the bulk of it to keep safely and am using it to pay her bills and groceries. This money comes from her weekly pension which she has always personally withdrawn. I could get it transferred directly into her bank but she would still want to have cash to hand. She is caught in this mid stage of being confused at times but being very lucid at other times. I am threading very gently between taking over her finances without totally sidelining her from having some control over some amount of money in her purse. I initially employed a friend to do some hours to fill the gap before I got the permanent carers who started last week. My friend told me she tried to give her a 50 note which she politely declined. I then told my mom that my friend worked for an agency who would sack her if she accepted the money, this was to scare her into not doing it with the new carers who are employed through an agency and therefore wouldn’t be informing me if she did it again. Mom seemed to understand and agreed not to do it again. But today I checked her wallet and there is no money there. I know her gardener turned up out of the blue last week after a prolonged absence and I was not there to pay him, so she paid him with cash as she has always done. But she should still have had some cash left, so now I don’t know if she overpaid him or she is handing out money to the new carers. I don’t want to accuse anyone without due proof. My friend takes her grocery shopping but I leave money for that so there is no other opportunity to spend cash and none of my kids have seen her this week as they are all away, Tonight she asked me to get her more money for her wallet and she was very lucid about it. Do I challenge her and upset her by refusing to replenish the money which is her own ? Or do I put a few 5’s and 10’s in it and write it off if its gone by the end of the week?