我92岁的母亲和70岁的弟弟和我的丈夫和我住我妈妈有心脏问题,慢性疼痛和痛苦记忆丧失。我哥哥有脑瘫、癫痫,坐在轮椅上。我妈妈知道的“最好”的哥哥,但她不接受,她再也不能做一些事情。她上个月下降了4月和一次。都需要去急诊室。这一切都是因为她拒绝使用沃克。上个月下降导致头部受伤和12针头骨。最后她到处沃克。她控制我的哥哥的一举一动,让他决定食品、药物、进度等没有咨询或与任何人讨论它。我哥哥的照顾者是美妙的,但看到我妈妈必须在控制所有的时间,使我们都很疲惫。 We have to try to circumvent her as much as possible. My husband and I have to have private conversations with the caregiver in order to address issues regarding my brother. We know that if my my mother is aware of any issues she would make decisions which oftentimes are out in left field with her illogical thinking. She is like a dark cloud in this home. She will not ask me when she needs something.....she will go to my brother's caregiver but not me. My husband and I are at our wit's end. All she wants to do is die and she makes sure she makes it miserable for everyone else. She completely ruined Christmas this year by staying in her room all day and refused participating in any family activities. My husband and I were so disgruntled we took down all the decorations on Christmas Day since she killed the spirit days before. I am trying to get a medical home health care worker in to address her specific physical needs but we have no idea how to cope with this illogical , depressed and controlling woman who does not know the meaning of being grateful. We realize dementia brings with it drastic mood swings and host of other problems but we have no idea how to get help for her.,,,,we are tired and weary.