Can FPOA refuse and/or make decisions medically without consulting the MPOAs?

Thank you for the frank advice. Attorney costs are a big hurdle but we have already contacted APS and Coast department in our City which is an entity that works with the Police Department. It’s sad that hatred is overshadowing the proper care for my parents.

我妈妈是一个完全无法理解d making decisions and dads abilities are not to good either with his dementia. And Yes. Why wouldn’t I be peeved when she moved in, and she and my brother won’t follow the medically given protocol for either of my parents and then hire caregivers without my direction. Ya I’m peeved. Wouldn’t you be if your diabetic father was not provided with the correct meals because they don’t feel it’s necessary? How about taking the locks of the gates because she doesn’t like it when mom gets angry and now both parents can leave and or get ran over or lost? We went back, out then on, only to be removed again and then the VA dr came over and let me one to formally give them a warning and if they didn’t comply then he with contact APS, so then they followed the direction. Then she and the FPOA hire unlicensed caregivers who follow her protocol not mine. When my mother was discharged from the hospital they stated she needed 24 hr care and so we hired licensed caregivers and sought out hospice help in the home until both entities quit because of the unruliness, safety issues and constant berating of these entities by my siblings. Constant interference, lies and deceit. We can’t physically be there 24/7 to take care of my parents and then they choose caregivers that follow their direction, not ours? And now my FPOA brother has joined the unruly club to allow my other siblings to do as they please because he doesn’t want the responsibility to care for them medically and it’s easier to have them do it for him. They Give him direction and withhold it from us as the MPOAs. Sure we can call APS, call the police and get a restraining order against my brother and sister, then what? We are constantly needing to get updates from the VA caregiver, who is paid for by VA and has worked with me before moms Stroke in caring for dad, who is competent and knows of the deceitful tactics of my siblings regarding my parents care. But the alternative is to get APS to deem the situation unsafe and take over there care. Do we want that, do we really want the state to take over, NO! but trying to get ones to cooperate is not working either. Why can’t adults act like adults and do what’s best for their parents. It’s very simplistic what is needed but I’m sure that is where we are heading.

That’s what I was thinking. So petty that this is where things are heading. Thank you

我think your ideas on the MPOAs abilities are a little off. The MPOA is the one who has been designated by the Principal to have the right medically to choose the caregivers, treatments doctors and facilities that the principal would need to receive for the care and no one else has that right, and if there is money in the estate, which there is, then the FPOA is to pay for the needs of the principal. This is from an Attorney’s website in Los Angeles.
“What can a medical agent
decide? As long as the POA says so, (this is my Dilemma) it can give
authority to decide everything medical. Also states: Make healthcare decisions, including the ability to consent to giving, withholding, or stopping medical treatments, services, or diagnostic procedures. (Note: your
loved one can also make a separate
"health care power of attorney" to
give only this power to another
个人。）
medical care such as hospital
护理，手术，家庭保健，
and psychiatric treatment
Choose care providers
Decide on assisted living
安排
The principal must be able to afford the arrangements.”
我的父母负担得起

我will check that out. I’ve just read that the MPOA has the right to make necessary decisions medically without other family members acknowledgments. I’ve tried so many times to discuss things but it sheets goes south. Just as in medication to help moms behavior, they then post that I am trying to kill my mom and keep her in a comatose state. It’s ridiculous and hurtful! My mother cannot at all, she steals but it dies not made sense, and my father, with his advancing dementia, many times does not live in reality. He does have a great sense of humor, but may not understand conversations or questions asked of him. Good days and then not so good. Fixation and confusion is a problem now. Ex: when are you taking me home? When he is at home? He might stick to this all day long. But both are physically doing good for 92 (dads diabetic) and 89 (mom suffering from lasting stroke issues) But could be better if the family would follow my suggestions and help them more with diet and medications.