假期的家。我应该问我的兄弟姐妹，如果她在他们的一个房屋上度过假期是否可以？

当我父亲中风时，我有大量提供帮助的人。麻烦是，他们没有真正的方法可以提供帮助。They can’t go in place of me to the hospital (hospital limited visitors to the same 2 people), drop the kids off at school, make their lunches, fold the laundry, etc. People I think are by and large giving, but clueless as to how to ACTUALLY help unless you specifically spell out what you need.

首先，我接近最有可能说是的兄弟姐妹。然后我会说：“您介意今年圣诞节去圣诞节吗？我真的一直在挣扎，正在烧毁，而且我很害怕做什么。我真的需要休息一下，我知道她很想拜访你。你能帮我吗？？？”

请记住，亲爱的而不是醋。

可以问的是完全可以的，但是他们不要自愿带她或告诉你，也完全可以。

同样，可以告诉他们，如果他们想到的是与家人和孩子们拥挤，供您娱乐，以便他们可以看到妈妈。

我认为最好的课程是分组聊天或单独询问SIBS，如果您不在这里，他们会做什么。由于您是，因此您应该获得高级董事会和护理的货入率，因为这实际上就是您正在做的事情。而且，如果他们不喜欢那样，那么她可以进入她的资产（如果有的话）和医疗补助金所支付的设施。

我会问。

If they offered when this started, it is times to make the help you need clear.

妈妈可以和他们一起度过几个星期，给您真正的喘息。

您不会告诉我们有关您妈妈健康的任何事情。她是否能够良好旅行并能够适应新环境而不会使她更加困惑？因为您知道她是否有认知能力下降，她将在熟悉的环境中做得最好，因为换房可能会使她感到非常沮丧和困惑。
And you must also know by now that if your siblings really wanted to help you, they would have offered by now, since you say she's been with for almost 3 years now. So I guess at this point all you can do is ask, but don't be surprised when they all come up with excuses as to why they can't. I'm sure they all figure since you've done everything this long that you can continue with things as they are.
取而代之的是，您可能想考虑雇用一些外部帮助（带有妈妈的钱）进来，并在一周内给您一些休息，因为重要的是要逃脱并为自己做一些有趣的事情。
祝您一切顺利。

他们可能同意，他们可能不会。如果您不问，您将不知道。两件事情：
1）为了保护自己免受很多不满，也许会以书面形式而不是在对话中成为暂定的要求。“我想知道你们中的一个……..这对我来说意义重大，妈妈会喜欢它。”
2）立即做。大多数人都在安排圣诞节的过程中，然后将其弹出，以后使它变得更加困难。

您一无所获。

等到他们提供的？哄笑！

我应该首先与您的母亲联系她实际上想这样做。你认为她会吗？

After 3 years of not helping, they obviously are not going to offer.

您要求他们提供帮助没有错。他们说不，也没有错。假期周围可能真的很忙碌，因此，当繁忙的假期不会成为问题时，也许可以准备好与不同的时间范围（例如1月中旬）的对抗。

By group chat, do you mean an online chat or a phone conversation? I think it would be awkward to ask both on a group phone call. An email or text to both would be fine, IMHO. But I hate talking on the phone so that could be playing into my answer.

Actually a group email could be a nice way to talk about things, including the sibs with financial issues. You never know what they might be up for so I would not exclude them. Let them know you would really benefit from a break every now and then. Could mom come to them or could they come to your place and you can go away? I don't know how capable your mom is of traveling alone and adjusting to a new environment, etc.

If you're wanting a little break here and there - can your mom afford to pay for some caregivers? You should not pay for it. If she can't afford it, perhaps your siblings could kick in a little to make it happen.

兄弟姐妹无济于事是很普遍的。许多人对护理不感兴趣。您必须接受这一点，不要为此而生气。如果/当您烧毁时，请获得帮助。

If they have offered in the past then I would take them up on it, and moving forward try to work out a schedule for the future holidays and summer. Yes. You do have to ask. Sad but true. But 'out of sight. out of mind'. Let them know that you will need breaks. How you ask them is really up to you and your relationship with them--sometimes it's easier to get help if it's a discussion with everyone. I would hurry though--it will be here before you know it! I hope you have a nice holiday!

Be direct. Let other family members know you need help and expect them to take on mom's care in their homes for portions of the year, You could make this a group chat with all the family members. Let them know what you would like and ask them to volunteer for holidays or weeks/months. If mom has dementia and/or needs a travel companion, discuss how handoffs could be accomplished while you are discussing her time with other family members..

You've taken on the entire burden of caring for your mother. (WHY?!?!) Since they haven't done anything up till now, what makes you think they would want to start? They do not want the burden of your mother during the holiday season.