我妈妈一个人住，已经95岁了。她是一个赌博成瘾者和囤积狂。我今晚去上班，就在他们家10分钟的时候我儿子打电话说奶奶需要你。她呼吸急促，浑身发抖。我马上就下班了，她的车道上停着两辆救护车。我冲到车道上，他们告诉我她没事。她只是恐慌症发作了但她想让我们送她去医院。我说好的，我们在那里见。我决定把一切都告诉他们。急诊室的医生给她做了全身检查，没有发现任何问题。 He then took her socks off because she said her toes hurt and all this white dust and stuff came out of her socks. He asked when the last time she changed her socks. She said she couldn’t remember. They immediately brought in a social worker. She told her that her house had clutter and I whispered hoarder so the social worker heard me. She kept trying to talk my mom into having a nurse or aide come to her house. She said no. A few minutes later I got the social worker aside and told her she is not bathing or changing her clothes, or washing her hair, that she won’t do laundry and she is a hoarder with just a path to get around the house. I am crying and pleading at this time and said I’m sorry. She refuses help. There is nothing we can do since she is competent. She said she has to fall or something before anybody can’t intervene. Nobody is calling APS. Not the hospital or the EMTs. There were 3 of them in her filthy house. The social worker told me to call APS if I wanted but don’t be surprised if they say there is nothing we can do because she is competent. This is outrageous. I live in upstate ny and there is no mandatory reporting of a self neglecting individual. Needless to say I had to bring her back home. I got her settled in and then I left.