母亲的最新情况。我费了好大劲才说服我妈去养老院。她两年前被诊断出患有痴呆症，她再也不能一个人呆着了。我有工作，有家庭她一直想让他们离开。三月，她去了养老院。我每周去两次，一开始每天晚上都给她打电话。我现在每周只打三次电话，因为她太消极了，我再也受不了了。当我去给她做头发时，她不停地抱怨。她抱怨我怎么给她做头发，抱怨这个地方，抱怨这里的人，抱怨一切。她一直问我"你能住在这里吗" Actually yes. It is brand new, wonderful people and great food. I worn out with the negativity. I have explained to her about her complaints, but she says I am "fussing" at her. Not true, just need some peace. Is it normal for a dementia patient be so negative? I do not want to go visit or call her. It would be so easy to just stop. I am an only child and feel obligated to help her. I feel so much better knowing she is safe and well cared for. She will not bathe or change her pajamas. She doesn't want to get her clothes on. She just wants to complain. She tells me she doesn't eat there, but they tell me different. Her memory isn;t so much the issue, it is her personality change, her inability to care for herself, and her reasoning skills are gone. Oh my, you cannot reason with her at all. When she truly believes something..well, she will say.."well, you are always right and want to argue with me." I want to walk away and enjoy my life without her in it, but I feel guilty for even thinking such a thing. Is all this normal?