关于处理不合作的兄弟姐妹的建议？
Hello. My sibling moved into my Mother's home after she had a fall and needed care (I am out of state and have kids to take care of while she does not). Since then, she has taken over all bank accounts, CC's, uses her car, and lives there. She has also made all medical decisions without consulting me, although we are joint POA's for medical.
She refuses to talk to me and seems angry for no real reason. She refuses to share or discuss any financial info, and if I ask about Mom's condition (she is not at home but has been in hospitals, rehab facilities, or ALF's), she just texts me to call the facility for an update. They prefer to only have one POC and usually do not call me back.
我have no idea why she is so angry, but she is an odd person. She is the executor named in the will, but I am not sure if she is the POA for financial, and she will not discuss that or anything else.
我s there anything I can do to gain access to financial records? Can I find out if she is now the POA? Can I find out if the will has been changed? My mother is not competent and has dementia, so discussing with her is not an option.
Thanks
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我f your sister was able to take over accts, she has some kind of authority. As a POA she is not obligated to give you any financial info. Actually she shouldn't because she is Moms representative.
我f you share the duties of Medical POA, send a copy to the home and tell them they must give you info when you call.
她可能很生气，因为责任都落在了她身上。也许她不想成为POA，但是妈妈分配某人为时已晚。
我don't think you are trying to save ur inheritance. But I think there is more going on here and until your sister decides to tell you what, I would back away.
我apologize to other posters here. I’m great full for this great site.
这篇文章对我来说离家太近了。
She is not caring for mom at her home either, mom has either been in a hospital, ALF, or rehab place. Still, I appreciate her being there. Just wish she was more open to discussing things.
Being that your sister is in the trenches 24/7 and you're after her about the finances, if I were in her shoes, I'd be going all quiet on you too, sorry to say.
我可以告诉你，与母亲打交道多年后，我可以告诉你，仅痴呆症是一场活着的噩梦。康复，医院，瀑布等人也是一种类似于地狱的弯曲体验，正如我在与2位年长的父母处理了很多年之后，我也可以证明。除了尝试平衡3款支票簿外，从IL到AL到MC总共5倍，成为其VA帐户的联邦受托人，还向VA负责，他们对他们所付出的资金并不断接受VA采访，接受。他们来回任命，专家，医生，ENTS，与护士打交道，耐用医疗设备的医疗保险，招待所，ALFS的执行董事以及列表中的不断和详尽地进行。令人难以置信的是，一位长者的POA涉及多少工作，您在这里问，在您的姐姐要处理的财务信息之后，您的母亲是否改变了您的母亲是否改变了使您的可怜的姐姐受益人的意愿超过您的意愿得到。
我f I were your sister, I'd be seriously irritated and taking no calls or communications from you at all. Zero.
听起来您一次与两个父母一起度过了艰难的时光。
She most likely has to live there, so yes she should get access to everything. My suggestion is to go there and see what is really going on. Spend a week there to see the real picture, not just 2-3 days. Then maybe the two of you can figure out a plan. If she is still hostile after this attempt at least you can say you tried.
我know it is stressful and I appreciate her being there, but never thought it would become antagonistic. It would seem as though I would have some rights to be involved, but I don't want to go through an ugly legal war. Just not sure what I can do at this point.
Personally, I don't CARE if he shares or not. He's very angry all the time and no one knows why. He CHOSE to move mom in with him 25 years ago--even when the 'family vote' was 5 against and 1 for the move.
Now he is exhausted and angry and very uncommunicative. If I want to know something I have to go to his house and corral him. It's ridiculous, really.
您可能需要去妈妈的旅行并亲自检查情况。同样，与她的律师快速进行1/2个小时的探访也不会虐待。
也许SIS觉得您正在利用她的优势 - 或者她感到被烧毁了，没有人在乎。在与她交谈之前，您不会知道。