对于那些因缺乏对父母的帮助而与兄弟姐妹疏远的人，您的关系如何？

出生于家庭并不能使它成为一个家庭。家庭动态可能非常复杂。这需要各方才能使其运作。并非每个人都有。对于那些我为您感到非常高兴的人。多么祝福。

请理解，我们中的一些人也想要那个，但是没有我们自己的错，这根本不可能。我们不能强迫兄弟姐妹照顾。

我预计不会恢复与同胞的关系。您会发现筹码下降时人们的真实情况

之前我阅读不少反应分ded to respond. I think it is one thing to have a sibling who lives across the country and logistically can't help, but it is certainly another when the sibling lives next door to you, makes more money than you and works out of his home and has the ability to make his own schedule and chooses not to help. Oh, and I forgot the best part...he is an RN. After my mom was diagnosed, she was still lived in her own home. That meant the grass needed cut, the bills needed paid, meds needed refilled, put in a dispenser and calls made twice a day to tell her to take them. Grocery shopping needed done. She needed taken everywhere...doctor, dentist, grocery, etc. I was working full time, had a kid at home and my own acre of grass, and grocery, etc... I was killing myself trying to manage her life. My brother did NOTHING. I kept calling him and saying we need to divvy up these responsibilities until we can figure out what to do with her. I was visiting assisted living facilities, trying to sell her car, getting crazy phone calls from her at my job telling me she let a strange man into the house and he gave her a pill to take...just crazy nonsense. When I approached my brother to say lets work out a schedule ...I suggested I take one week and he take the other... something like that. He literally WENT OFF THE RAILS and said he didn't have to do sh*t. Then the personal attack started...the name calling and what not. I hung up on him and we didn't speak for 3 years. He is a self absorbed narcissist who doesn't do anything that doesn't some how benefit him. During that three years, I had to put my moms home on the market, put her car on the market, leave my job everytime there was a showing to clean her house and take her out of the home during the showing. Find an assisted living facility, buy her new furnishings that would fit in the efficiency apartment, sell all of her old furnishings, clean out her house once it sold, meet with a lawyer to get POA. etc.etc.etc. Once placed in AL, I manager her care, bills, laundry and personal items. Much more doable. I WILL NEVER forgive my brother for his actions and the lack of assistance he gave our mother. After three years of silence, we do speak and he does come over for holiday meals and what not but it is not the same. I choose not to focus on it because the anger and bitterness will eat you alive and it's not hurting him, it is hurting me. So I choose not to think about it, but deep down there is a real dislike for him. I got to see the real him.

自从我父亲过去以来，这里也没有关系。我在几年前看到了这个，但即使我也不认为这会变得丑陋。不幸的是，当我的妈妈担任执行人时，我确实需要在将来与他打交道，他是一个受益人，但我计划通过律师进行所有交流，因为我不会让自己受到他的虐待性Tirades。

我的妈妈和继父都离我住了4个小时。我姐姐住在离他们的路3英里处。近20年，每周两天，星期二。＆星期四，我会去看他们，做我20年的事情。每天打电话。在我那里的日子里，我的姐姐会出现，嘴。她每月给他们带来一锅豆子。这就是我所做的；清理了房子，洗了洗衣房，买了可以准备的食物，与药房安排，让他们得到药物。我还为房屋支付了公用事业。 I would leave each of them a 100$ bill, to use as they chose to. My sibling told me I never did anything for them. She believed she would "get everything" when they were gone. As a notary, I knew how to fix that. Me and parents talked bout this; they did not want her to have it. I made their wills, did all necessary paperwork to have everything transferred to another sibling - not me - and when they went home, my sibling got the shock of her life. She walked away empty handed. Greed will do you in, everytime. I have been "disowned" by my sibling, 8 years now. I don't miss her b*tching at me. I have found peace in my soul.

什么兄弟姐妹...
我的四个姐妹决定将他们带回那些将他们带入这个爱他们的世界，一直在那里的人，也从来没有让他们失望。
BUT when the shoe was on the other foot, they were no where to be found. Not a call, no drop by, not even a card was sent. they made it clear to me that they were to busy with their own lives to
找时间芯片。他们很忙，以至于没有一个人和他们的孩子来我父母醒来和葬礼。
至少可以说。
但是猜猜谁在我父母被埋葬后的第二天打电话，想知道我父母的意愿以及他们会得到什么。
我很高兴告诉他们“什么都没有”，就像你给他们的那样，挂断了人，再也不会说话了。
在我的书中，这是如此无礼，如此无情。我看不到其他方式。
我一生中有四个姐姐。我现在有四个前姐妹，我永远不会原谅或忘记他们在死亡床上给我的父母添加的痛苦.....

正如一个人回答的那样，再次坚持所有这些负面情绪，“缺席”的同胞伤害了您，而不是他们……但这并不意味着您必须成为最好的芽，并且他们的行为还可以。
您的同胞行为也表明了对父母的缺乏爱和尊重，这对我来说是最大的罪行。这些赋予他们生命，安置，喂食和穿衣服的人，爱他们。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。。这些同胞的损失超出了他们的理解。我可怜他们...想知道当他们需要他们不提供的东西时，他们会发生什么。

去ing on five years of not speaking to my brother. He sent me a text wishing me a happy birthday a year ago. At the time I did not know who it was, then when I figured it out, I tried to reach out to him to ask for help with mom. Both my older brother and I work 10 hour days, and pay for the care mom gets when we cannot be with her, and are there with her in the evenings and days off. We just wanted some help... However, received no response, so I guess no response is a response. You grow up with these people your whole life and think you know them, and they turn out to be someone you never knew... I have mourned his loss long ago and moved on. When it comes time for the Lord to come for mother, nothing will change. He was not there when she was alive, don't need him when she is gone.

我参与了我的老父母的关心。他们确实付给我一些，但肯定不等同于拥有家庭护理，但我对此很好。我的兄弟姐妹知道我得到了报酬，所以这给了他们沉默的借口，不要为我的父母提供更多礼物。我发现这很可悲，但拒绝居住。当然，这改变了我对那些选择缺席的人的看法。值得庆幸的是，我与父母有体面的关系，但照顾他们会感到压倒性。

我经常看到这一点。有时，由于任何原因，家庭中的其他人根本不会或无法帮助看护。如果情况确实是合法和有效的，那是一回事，但是如果这只是自私和不愿意做任何帮助的不愿意，那么问问自己 - 您是否真的希望生活中这样的人？就个人而言，我不会。然后继续在没有他们的情况下为自己度过美好的生活。人们必须得到很好的对待，如果他们不能体面，那么为什么要在您的生活中呢？