您什么时候知道是时候让您的LO进入辅助生活护理？它在家里变得越来越艰难！

对我来说，那是我知道的四个秋天的某个地方，几次去急诊室旅行，几次失禁，混合了药物，发现她盯着车上的钥匙，因为她不知道如何弄清楚开始它。在此过程中，她也打破了她的背部，但是正如早期几代人所说的那样：“妈妈是一个艰难的旧宽阔”。

这是一件非常清楚的事情，因为我们只是做不到，她显然无法做到，

There's a lot of gray between what I had and a healthy independent person so it's not easy to know and two people in the exact same situation may have different tolerances for that exact same situation.

但是，这就是事情，我认为没有帮助很少会变得容易。

If you are talking about your husband with dementia then...
You look to place him when....
**事情在家里变得越来越艰难，而且变得越来越艰难的时候更加频繁。
** When it becomes unsafe for YOU to care for him at home.
** When it becomes unsafe for HIM for you to care for him at home.
**当您不再照顾自己时，您也关心他。
**当您失去朋友和“自我”感时，您的完全专注于照料
the list can go on but you get the idea.
总的来说，如果您问的话，如果其他人告诉您，可能是时候听您脑海中的声音了。

在our most recent placement, it got “rough at home”, explicitly my LO knew she should and stated herself that she could not be alone in her house but rejected the introduction of very good around the clock caregivers, insisted on doing unsafe and unnecessary things that she was told to let others do, became unable to manage times and doses of medications, and was a severe fall risk.

她经常在跑步良好的情况下讨论“审判”，美丽的Al距离我家5分钟车程，当她到达那里时，她几乎立即失去了所有的理性感。

一种very good psychiatric behavioral specialist ultimately got her through that, and explained to me that some of her symptoms at home had been caused by her own awareness and anxiety of her realization that her memory was becoming so much weaker.

Now, after 3 years at her residence, and surviving Covid, I know that however much I would have preferred to keep her at home, we made the best choice out of the several less than happy choices we could have made.

经过几个月无法与她接触的几个月后，她仍然认识我，并期待我的访问。我们开玩笑，一起做一些手工艺品项目，八卦，并谈论旧时代和地方。

我从不离开她而没有告诉她我有多爱她，我很快就会回来。我非常感谢与她分享这些小事情。

You may well find that when your husband is placed and has gotten enough time to adjust to his new surroundings, you can stop being warden, pharmacist, sanitation supervisor, caregiver and start being wife and loving helpmate again. I hope so.