长者在哪里寻求律师关于生活选择？

Crumbs, you're a long way away from them, no?

我认为，首先从退伍军人组织那里获得建议是一个好主意，他们应该比更普遍的心态更好地理解继父的心态。

但是，谁目前每天都在发送三个小时的支持？您的母亲可能是另一个想法与提供者交谈，并查看他们可能需要建议的其他帮助，尤其是在丰富活动方面。如果您的继父可以参加某种一天的计划或其他常规活动，那么她可能会得到更多的呼吸时间。

同时，即使她还没有为此做好准备，也提醒她，只要提前计划并不仅要考虑到他可能的恶化，还要考虑她自己的需求是明智的。当您有很多物质因素要焦虑时，请服用焦虑药，只能是粘贴石膏。随着她的耐力和力量的下降，如果她试图（原谅我）士兵，这两个 *都会变得艰难。

如果你的继父是职业军人,退休了, could he be accepted to live in a veteran's home?
退伍军人政府可能能够为您提供帮助。可能值得与他们谈论他。
在the meantime, if you're planning on facility placement start virtually touring different AL or nursing facilities and meeting with their administrators via video chat if you want your parents to stay in CA.
Or go in person to tour facilities in your area and move them nearer to you.
一名住家护理人员也可能是他们的答案，但是我不建议如果附近没有家人可以定期检查他们和看护人。

Above all don’t go to “A Place for Mom”. A lawyer told me that they only refer to places where they have a relationship which means certain places pay them and other good places may be eliminated from choices.

退休军官应该有很多东西。尤其是如果他在战争期间在军队中，就会有艾滋病和出勤。如果他已经从VA那里得到帮助，他一定有一个案例工作者。与那个人交谈。说明爸爸需要更多的帮助，可能是安置。确保他们知道妈妈以及事情将如何影响她。您的县也应该有VA办公室。

Contact the VA Social worker.
They can increase hours of the caregiver.
还有其他程序可能会有所帮助。（询问我丈夫被称为VIP *退伍军人 *的程序 *）这个名字可能已经更改，或者可能有其他人在其他领域被其他名称。
The VA does have Adult Day Programs he might go to.
There have been changes recently and your mom can get paid for caring for him. (This is pretty new so be persistent about it)
根据他在何时何地服务，他们将对他的“残疾”进行分类，而他的资格越高。
Ask about placement in one of the VA facilities. Locally we have what they call the Green House and it is several smaller houses that are much nicer than the larger older VA "homes" it is more of a family setting rather than an institutional facility.
If you cant get the info from the Social Worker contact the local Veterans Assistance Commission and they can get the paperwork needed to determine his "% of disability" that will be important in determining how much help he and your mom can get.
（帕金森氏症只是一种医疗状况，可以根据他服务的位置将其纳入％。）

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